“LIFE is like a camera. Focus on what is important, highlight the good memories and develop from the negative. If things do not work, take another shot,”
-Anonymous.
Have you married a person you really loved?
My husband and I will be celebrating our 24th wedding anniversary and it is my joy to share what made us last in this thing we call marriage.
Our love story is both sweet and full of interesting things. My husband and I were classmates from college. We are both Theology majors. We finished our course in FEBIAS College of Bible.
I remember that he was my first crush in my Freshman year but I never told a single soul about this. Upon knowing that he was the college president’s son at that time I set aside my feelings and focused on my studies.
Come Sophomore year, I heard rumors that he liked me, and yet we both focused on our priorities. We became closer when we had our Greek language class where he tutored me sometimes. We were seat mates and often chat secretly, especially when our teacher was busy teaching. Even today I still remember that enticing perfume he put on himself that made him more attractive.
For two years, we enjoyed our friendship and courtship. It was during our senior year when I finally accepted his proposal for us to date. We have our long engagement period since I live in Cavite and he lives in Valenzuela. We both enjoyed the excitement of exchanging love letters via air mail. The mailman’s voice has always been a music to my ears as I anticipated my love’s letter. Waiting for each other’s letter brought so much excitement. There was no mobile phones yet during that time and talking over the phone via long distance was expensive.
One unforgettable date we had was when he brought me to a plane, a Boeing 707, that once belonged to Elvis Presley and converted into a restaurant. It was my first time to step on an airplane and we were the only customer that they served.
Everything was doing well until the year before our marriage came. I was diagnosed with Thyroid cancer. That was the time when I proved my husband’s intention and commitment. He chose to stay with me and to take care of me instead of changing plans. His patience and sacrifice convinced me that he really loves me. By God’s mercy through prayers of many I was healed through radioactive Iodine treatment
It took us five years before I became pregnant and it was not easy. There was this fear of losing the baby because of the bleeding I experienced during the first and last trimester of my pregnancy. Through God’s grace, I delivered a baby girl safe. She is 19 now — a strong, smart and pretty woman.
Through the years married people like us should focus on acceptance and respect — two important things that should remain in a loving relationship. We can only do it if we are committed to God to fulfill our vows to each other.
When things are tough and challenging especially when opinions and personality clash, always go back to your commitment to God and to each other. Learn to recall good and pleasant memories we have with each other.
In conflict, never dwell on the negative things in mind, instead look for an opportunity to develop our dependence on God and maturity of our character. One thing is sure, we can not change other people but we can change our attitude about the situation.
It is impossible that we don’t encounter mistakes, shortcomings or hurtful words from each other but what matters most is that we don’t dwell on those things. Letting our minds focus on what matters most in a relationship will make one last.
“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”
-Philippians 4:8
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