My source of security

NOBODY wants to feel insecure.

How can you say a person is insecure?

First, they show up when they are threatened – either they fight or flight. Second, they pull others down, (because they create a false sense of stability by tearing others down). Lastly, they are wearing masks, so to speak, to hide, manipulate and deceive others.

Insecurity according to WebMD is a feeling of inadequacy (not being good enough) and uncertainty. It produces anxiety about your goals, relationships, and ability to handle certain situations.

The website also says there are different forms of insecurity such as relationship or attachment insecurity, job insecurity, body image insecurity, and social insecurity.

Insecurity, according to, happens because of various reasons like early attachment issues, traumatic events, life crises, unpredictability, and upset in daily life. In addition, many would say those who are insecure have low self-esteem.

I am familiar with the feelings of insecurity because I happened to experience it when I was still young. My parents got separated and kids my age back then often teased me because of the situation I was into.

Social discrimination became a part of my daily life since I belonged to a broken family. I even fell under the pressure of trying hard to please people. The feeling of being needy both materially and emotionally became real to me.

In seeking stability, this quote of Joseph Wood Krutch became true to me: “Security depends not so much how much you have, as upon how much you can do without.” This void inside became a way for me to reflect and search for more meaningful things in life.

The Bible, which I take as a source of truth, says in Isaiah 9:6 “ For to us a child is born, to us, a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace,” is a reminder to Israel in their times of political and social insecurity. There was a promised Messiah who will be strong enough to carry them through.

The one the passage speaks about brought me a sense of security, hope, and courage at the peak of my insecurity. That One is Jesus, the reason for every Christmas season.

By embracing faith in Jesus and making Him part of my life, I have learned how to be secure within. With him, I have learned to accept my past, to be courageous at present, and to be positive in the future. He became my counselor.
Stanley Judd says: “The ultimate security is your understanding of reality.“

What then is your reality? Is it only what your hands can touch and your eyes can see? Or the reality that there is an eternal Savior, born as a human but who is a Great God who can give you a stable source of security?

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